Mary Ellen W. Smoot
Relief Society General President
We cannot abandon our faith when challenges comes
our way. We will not turn away; we will not retreat; we will not become discouraged.
Some people and events come into our lives, leave footprints
on our hearts, and we are never the same.
Tonight, as a presidency, our prayers are that the words
spoken here this evening will leave footprints upon our hearts and keep us firm,
steadfast, and immovable as daughters of God.
As I have traveled the world, the faithful sisters of
Relief Society have left footprints upon my heart. I have watched their devoted
efforts to assist and serve one another here and around the world. I will never
be the same.
I ask that your prayers be with me as I say a few things
that I hope will penetrate your hearts and lead you closer to our Savior and
Redeemer.
We choose to be steadfast and immovable in our faith because
of the promises of eternal glory, eternal increase, and continued family relationships
in the celestial kingdom. We love our families and know that our greatest joy
and peace come to us as we watch each family member face the tests of life and
make righteous choices to overcome the world.
Occasionally I place my hands on both sides of the face
of one of my children or grandchildren when they are doing something that will
bring immediate or long-term harm to themselves in the process. I look deeply
into their eyes and carefully explain to them how much they are loved and cherished.
Then I describe the harm that could result from the actions they have chosen.
I can envision the Savior holding our faces between His
hands and pleading with each of us individually to remain steadfast and immovable
and faithful to the God who made us.
Sisters, I wish I could place my hands on both sides of
your faces, look deeply into your eyes, and impart to you a clear vision of
your vital role as beloved daughters of God whose "lives have meaning, purpose,
and direction." We are women who "increase our testimonies of Jesus Christ through
prayer and scripture study," who "seek spiritual strength by following the promptings
of the Holy Ghost." We "dedicate ourselves to strengthening marriages, families,
and homes" and "find nobility in motherhood and joy in womanhood.1"
We are women of the Relief Society organization of The Church of Jesus Christ
of Latter-day Saints.
Before coming into this mortal world, we lived together
in the presence of a loving Heavenly Father. I imagine one of our favorite topics
of conversation was what would happen when we passed through the veil and entered
this earthly existence.
Now we are here. Even though we were instructed regarding
the difficulties we would encounter on earth, I doubt we understood or could
have known how demanding and trying, how tiring and even sorrowful at times
this mortal existence would be. We have no doubt all, at some point, felt that
what we were experiencing was just too hard to bear. Yet the Prophet Joseph
Smith taught: "When [we] joined this Church [we] enlisted to serve God.
When [we] did that [we] left . . . neutral ground, and [we] never
can get back on to it. Should [we] forsake the Master [we] enlisted
to serve it will be by the instigation of the evil one, and [we] will follow
his dictation and be his servant."2
I can imagine our Savior placing His hands on both sides
of our faces, looking deeply into our eyes, and promising a sisterhood, a Relief
Society, to help us in our trials. This organization for all women of the Church
is for the purpose of helping to bring us to the Savior and assisting one another
in helping the sick and the poor. Relief Society sisters will put their arms
around the new members and make everyone feel needed and nurtured, no matter
what their status of life is at this time. They will welcome the new young women
as they arrive and make them an integral part of every activity. Use them. We
cannot afford to lose them. Everyone will be lifted and loved. Everyone will
follow their priesthood leaders as they guide us through a narrow passageway
to a safe harbor, pure truth, and a lifestyle befitting daughters of God.
President Gordon B. Hinckley has counseled the women of
the Church: "Rise to the great potential within you. I do not ask that you reach
beyond your capacity. I hope you will not nag yourselves with thoughts of failure.
I hope you will not try to set goals far beyond your capacity to achieve. I
hope you will simply do what you can do in the best way you know. If you do
so, you will witness miracles come to pass."3
When I hear sisters say, "It is just too hard to do my
visiting teaching" or "I simply do not have time to pray and read my scriptures!"
or "I have too much going on to attend home, family, and personal enrichment
meeting," I want to say as President Hinckley has counseled, "Rise to the great
potential within you." We may need to step back and consider if our actions
are consistent with those things that matter most to us. As we place first things
first in our lives, we can live each day without regret.
We go to Relief Society each week not only to be fed,
nurtured, and loved, but also to report for duty. Sometimes the most important
duty is right within the walls of our own homes.
Lucifer is doing all that he can to divert us from those
things of first importance. One of his most effective tools is to convince us
that it is impossible to stay centered on spiritual things when the demands
of life are so pressing.
When a lawyer asked the Savior which of all the commandments
was greatest, Jesus responded without hesitation: "Thou shalt love the Lord
thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. .
. . And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself."4
These are the great commandments. Upon them hang all the law and the prophets.
These are the things that matter most. As we strive to live these commandments,
the others will take care of themselves.
How is our relationship with our Heavenly Father? Do we
love Him with all our heart, might, mind, and strength? How well do we love
our families, our neighbors, our Relief Society sisters, our fellowman? These
questions help us recognize the things that matter most and serve as a template
upon which we can place the activities of our days to see how we measure up.
Do we show our love to the Lord if we spend our time at
R-rated movies, reading pornographic material, or involving ourselves in activities
that would be degrading or unbecoming a daughter of God? Do we show our love
to the Lord if we dress immodestly? Recently I spoke to a large group of youth,
and one young man after the meeting handed me this note: "Please, will you let
the women of the Church know how much I appreciate their modesty? I know in
our world it is difficult to find modest clothes. But please let them know that
it is worth it to me and to the wholesome men they will marry."
We cannot abandon our faith when challenges come our way.
We will not turn away; we will not retreat; we will not become discouraged.
We will move boldly and clearly forward and be an example for all those around
us in modesty, humility, and faith. Being steadfast and immovable is a personal
quest that has eternal rewards, for if we do so, "Christ, the Lord God Omnipotent,
may seal you his, that you may be brought to heaven, that ye may have everlasting
salvation and eternal life."5
Some years ago, in her parting words to the Relief Society
sisters, Sister Belle Spafford said, "The average woman today, I believe, would
do well to appraise her interests, evaluate the activities in which she is engaged,
and then take steps to simplify her life, putting things of first importance
first, placing emphasis where the rewards will be greatest and most enduring,
and ridding herself of the less rewarding activities."6
Sometimes it takes a traumatic event to help us understand
things of first importance. A few weeks ago we experienced one of those dramatic
events that changed our lives forever and helped us realize the need to be prepared.
The most frequent sentiment expressed by those directly affected by the recent
terrorist attacks on the eastern coast of the United States was that all they
wanted was to have their family together again. I understand this reaction.
Earlier this year, I underwent a serious surgery and spent
many days in the hospital. As I pondered my life and what I would report to
the Lord if I were called home, I realized with absolute clarity that the family
is one of the most important responsibilities we have. I knew my greatest joy
would be to have my children, grandchildren, and future great-grandchildren
remain firm, steadfast, and immovable in the gospel. In those lonely moments
in a dark hospital room, I realized that what we do within the walls of our
homes far outweighs the things we do outside of them.
Yes, at times we are beset by troubles and pain and grief.
But we must not surrender. We must not retreat. Eliza R. Snow, the second president
of the Relief Society, penned these words: "I will go forward. . . . I will
smile at the rage of the tempest, and ride fearlessly and triumphantly across
the boisterous ocean of circumstance. . . . And the 'testimony of Jesus'
will light up a lamp that will guide my vision through the portals of immortality,
and communicate to my understanding the glories of the Celestial kingdom."7
Oh, that I could look face-to-face into the eyes of every
sister and have her catch the fire of those words and truly understand who she
is and what she is capable of accomplishing. Oh, that the words of our declaration
could take root deep within us: "We are beloved . . . daughters of God. . .
. We are united in our devotion to Jesus Christ. . . . We are women of faith,
virtue, vision, and charity."8
Discouragement, sorrow, pain, and grief may beset us and
try us. But my beloved sisters in the gospel, while it is too late to turn back,
we can stand firm and steadfast and leave footprints on the hearts of those
whose lives we touch. We can smile at the rage of the tempest and ride triumphantly
across the boisterous ocean of circumstance. We can have the testimony of Jesus
Christ light up a lamp that will guide us through the portals of immortality.
That we may finish gloriously, that we may focus our energies
on those things of first importance, and that we may yet meet on the other side
of the veil and embrace each other with the triumphant knowledge that we have
remained steadfast and immovable is my hope and prayer for you, dear sisters,
in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.
NOTES
1. Relief Society declaration, in Mary Ellen Smoot, "Rejoice,
Daughters of Zion," Ensign, Nov. 1999, 9293.
2. In "Recollections of the Prophet Joseph Smith," Juvenile
Instructor, 15 Aug. 1892, 492.
3. Motherhood: A Heritage of Faith (1995), 9.
4. Matt.
22:37, 39.
5. Mosiah
5:15.
6. A Woman's Reach (1974), 23.
7. "The Lord Is My Trust," Poems, Religious, Historical,
and Political, vol. 1 (1856), 14849; emphasis in original.
8. Ensign, Nov. 1999, 92.