Self-mastery . . . is the ultimate test of our character.
Brethren, this evening we are part of history in the making. We are convened in
the largest of all priesthood meetings ever held in any dispensation. We rejoice
in the attendance of all of those beyond the great Conference Center numbering
in the hundreds of thousands. Meeting for the first time in this new, grand edifice
is a great moment in the history of humanity. We are indebted to the Lord, who
inspired President Gordon B. Hinckley with the prophetic vision that brought about
its construction and made it all possible. We thank Bishop H. David Burton, Bishop
Richard C. Edgley, Bishop Keith B. McMullin, and all who have had anything to
do with its construction. Now that we have it, we must use it to strengthen the
faith of our people.
Tonight, brethren, I should like to speak about the power of self-mastery in
its larger sense. Self-mastery is essential to invoke the power of the priesthood
of God. This is because this great, divine agency can only be exercised in righteousness.
Self-mastery requires self-determination and strength of character. It enhances
our own gifts and talents in a remarkable way. It is the power of noble manhood.
Every human soul, especially priesthood holders, has the challenge of controlling
his or her thoughts, appetites, speech, temper, and desires. One of these may
be a bad temper. When I was a boy, I had red hair. At times my mother accused
me of having a temper to go with it. They used to call me "Red." Those were
fighting words. I think I have learned to control it. Those with red hair are
not the only ones that must learn to control an unruly temper. Willpower is
necessary so that irritations do not take over our emotions.
A local newspaper recently reported on a phenomenon accompanying the increased
traffic on our roads: "It is the normal scenario of rush-hour traffic: honking,
tailgating, obscene gestures. Even outright violence is on the increase in our
driving." Sometimes tempers get out of control, and we call it "road rage."
I have often wondered why some men's personalities change when they get behind
the steering wheel of their car, secured by glass and metal. In some way this
seems to excuse their rude behavior. Road rage is not caused by traffic congestion
but by attitude. As some drivers become impatient and overaggressive, they may
lose control and cause serious injury, even death, to others on the highway.
Self-mastery is a challenge for every individual. Only we can control our appetites
and passions. Self-mastery cannot be bought by money or fame. It is the ultimate
test of our character. It requires climbing out of the deep valleys of our lives
and scaling our own Mount Everests.
As full-time missionaries we learn great lessons in self-mastery. We learn
to get up when we should get up, to work when we should work, and to go to bed
when we should go to bed. Full-time missionaries are generally admired and even
respected, though their message may not be as well received as we would like.
The First Presidency and others of the General Authorities meet with many heads
of state, ambassadors, and ministers from all over the world. Frequently, when
the subject comes up, these men of great power and influence speak with admiration
and respect for the missionaries they have seen in their homelands.
Our young elders are models of young manhood. When they come home, some are
criticized as being self-righteous for maintaining a decent appearance and keeping
their hair trimmed neatly. I cannot understand why a returned missionary is
considered self-righteous if he tries to live the standards and principles he
has taught as a representative of the Lord to the people where he has served.
Of course returned missionaries are not expected to wear white shirts and ties
all of the time. But wearing sloppy clothes and weird hairstyles to supposedly
look trendy is not proper for one who holds the divine commission of the priesthood.
Returned missionaries are an example to the young men of the Aaronic Priesthood,
who will be the future missionaries. Often that which is seen by the
Aaronic Priesthood is more powerful and persuasive than what is said.
Men and women often attempt to gain notice and approval of the group from whom
they seek acceptance. Such peer pressure may cause them to do things they would
not otherwise do. This is acting out of weakness, not strength. The Lord promises
us through Moroni: "And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness.
I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient
for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves
before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong
unto them."1
In its simplest terms, self-mastery is doing those things we should do and
not doing those things we should not do. It requires strength, willpower, and
honesty. As the traffic on the communications highway becomes a parking lot,
we must depend more and more on our own personal moral filters to separate the
good from the bad. Marvelous as it is in many ways, there is something hypnotic
about using the Internet. I refer specifically to spending endless time in chat
rooms or visiting the pornography sites.
I now turn to mastery of our own private thoughts. In this realm, conscience
is the only referee that can blow the whistle when we get out of control. If
not bridled, our thoughts can run wild. Our minds are a part of us that really
require discipline and control. I believe reading the scriptures is the best
washing machine for unclean or uncontrolled thoughts. For those who are eligible
and worthy, the sanctity of the holy temple can lift our thoughts above the
earthy.
When I was participating in athletics and served in the military, I heard expressions
that made me ashamed to hear them. If, as Samuel Johnson suggested, "language
is the dress of thought,"2 then the language
we are hearing on television, in the movies, and even in our schools is a poor
commentary on our current thinking. I worry about young people becoming desensitized
as they continually hear or use this bad language. I believe that the young
man of character is not coarse in his speech. Holders of the holy priesthood
of God should never use foul language or obscene gestures.
I now speak of the absolute necessity of controlling all physical appetites.
These might in one sense be called the "thorn in the flesh."3
Harry Emerson Fosdick provides an important context for self-control: "Self-denial
. . . is not the negative, forbidding thing that often we shake our
heads about. In one sense there is no such thing as self-denial, for what we
call such is the necessary price we pay for things on which our hearts are set."4
One of the great foundations of personal power is purity. Alfred, Lord Tennyson,
captured this when he penned, "My strength is as the strength of ten, / Because
my heart is pure."5 With all my heart I urge
you wonderful young people not to take a secret shame with you to your marriage.
You may never be able to forget it. You will want to go through life with the
strength that comes from a clear conscience, which will permit you one day to
stand before your Maker and say, "My soul is pure." Self-denial is not restrictive.
It is liberating. It is the pathway to freedom. It is strength. It is an essential
element of purity. Shakespeare expressed it well through his character Hamlet:
Refrain to-night;
And that shall lend a kind of easiness
To the next abstinence, the next more easy;
For use almost can change the stamp of nature,
And either master the devil or throw him out
With wondrous potency.6
Heber J. Grant was the first President of the Church I had the privilege of
meeting. He was truly a great man. We admired him because part of his strength
was his great determination for self-mastery. His father died when he was only
a year old, and his widowed mother struggled to raise him. He was conscientious
in helping her and trying to take care of her.
"When he was older and wanted to join a baseball team, . . . the
other [boys laughed] at him, . . . calling him a 'sissy' because
he could not throw the ball between the bases. His teammates teased him so much
that . . . he . . . made up his mind that he was going to
play with the nine who would win the championship of the Territory of Utah.
He purchased a baseball and practiced hour after hour, throwing at a neighbor's
old barn. Often his arm would ache so much he could hardly . . . sleep
at night. He kept on practicing and . . . improving and advancing
from one team to another until he finally [succeeded] in playing [on]
the team that won the territorial championship!"7
Another example of his self-mastery was his determination to become a good
penman. His penmanship was so bad that when two of his friends looked at it,
one said, "That writing looks like hen tracks." "No," said the other, "it looks
as if lightning has struck an ink bottle." This, of course, touched young Heber
Grant's pride. While he was still in his teens as a policy clerk in the office
of H. R. Mann and Co., "he was offered three times his salary to go to San Francisco
as a penman. He later became a teacher of penmanship and bookkeeping at the
University of [Utah]. In fact, with a specimen he had written before
he turned seventeen, he took first prize in a territorial fair against four
professional penmen."8
Singing was another challenge for President Grant. As a small child, he could
not carry a tune. When he was 10, a music instructor tried to teach him the
simplest song and finally gave up in despair. At age 26, when he became an Apostle,
he asked Professor Sims if he could teach him how to sing. After listening to
him, Professor Sims replied, "Yes, you can learn to sing, but I would like to
be forty miles away while you are doing it." This only challenged him to try
harder.9
President Grant one time said, "I have practiced on the 'Doxology'10
between three and four hundred times, and there are only four lines, and I cannot
sing it yet."11 It is reported that on a trip
to Arizona with Elder Rudger Clawson and Elder J. Golden Kimball, President
Grant "asked them if he could sing one hundred songs on the way. They thought
he was joking and said, 'Fine, go right ahead.' After the first forty, they
assured him if he sang the other sixty they would both have a nervous breakdown.
He sang the other sixty."12
By practicing all of his life he made some improvement in singing but perhaps
not as much as in baseball and penmanship, which he mastered. President Grant
had a favorite quotation from Ralph Waldo Emerson which he lived by: "That which
we persist in doing becomes easier for us to do; not that the nature of the
thing itself is changed, but that our power to do is increased."
As priesthood holders, we should not look for excuses when we lose our self-control.
Even though our circumstances may be challenging, we can all strive for self-mastery.
Great blessings of personal satisfaction come from doing so. Self-mastery is
related to spirituality, which is the central quest of mortality. As President
David O. McKay once said: "Spirituality is the consciousness of victory over
self, and of communion with the Infinite. Spirituality impels one to conquer
difficulties and acquire more and more strength. To feel one's faculties unfolding
and truth expanding the soul is one of life's sublimest experiences."13
As a hopeless cripple, William Ernest Henley courageously looked beyond his
outward physical condition to triumph in his heart and mind when he wrote "Invictus":
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance,
I have not winced nor cried aloud:
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed. . . .
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.14
Brethren, I testify with all my heart and soul that through the power of self-mastery
we will inherit the blessings our Heavenly Father has for his faithful sons.
In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.
NOTES
1. Ether 12:27.
2. The Oxford Dictionary of Quotations, 4th ed., ed.
Angela Partington, 368.
3. 2 Cor. 12:7.
4. The Meaning of Service (1920), 83.
5. Oxford Dictionary of Quotations, 689.
6. Hamlet, 3.4.16671.
7. Roderick L. Cameron, Tenacity, Brigham Young University
Speeches of the Year (1 Dec. 1964), 3.
8. David C. Call, Success--Spiritual and Temporal,
Brigham Young University Speeches of the Year (30 Nov. 1965), 6.
9. See Cameron, Tenacity, 2.
10. "Praise God, from Whom All Blessings Flow," Hymns,
no. 242.
11. In Conference Report, Apr. 1900, 61.
12. Cameron, Tenacity, 3.
13. Gospel Ideals (1953), 390.
14. "Invictus. In Mem. R.T.H.B.," as quoted in Oxford
Dictionary of Quotations, 332.