Reach Out in Love, Elder Renlund Says in New Suicide Prevention Videos
“Reach out in love and caring for those who have suicidal thoughts, who have attempted suicide, who feel marginalized in any way. We need to reach out with love and understanding.” —Elder Dale G. Renlund of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
In an ongoing effort to help prevent suicide, the Church has released a series of hopeful videos—several of which come from Elder Dale G. Renlund of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles—that encourage Latter-day Saints to listen to and love those considering suicide.
Elder Renlund encourages Latter-day Saints to “reach out in love and caring for those who have suicidal thoughts, who have attempted suicide, who feel marginalized in any way. We need to reach out with love and understanding. And you do that in concert with health care professionals, with ecclesiastical leaders, with friends and family support.”
The “old sectarian notion that suicide is a sin and that someone who commits suicide is banished to hell forever” is “totally false,” he said.
Two videos feature personal stories—one of a woman who found hope after surviving a suicide attempt, the other of a father who endured the suicide of his son away at college.
“To call someone who is attempting suicide selfish is really not OK because there are other things that they are struggling with,” says the young woman. “They didn’t wake up one morning and say, ‘Oh, I want to attempt suicide.’ No, it’s a state of being. Just because we can’t see what someone is thinking or going through doesn’t mean that they don’t need help. To someone who is struggling, I would definitely say, ‘Please reach out.’ There’s always someone there who is willing to listen.”
Rodolfo Beltran, whose son Carlos took his own life, says he used to think suicide only affects families with big problems. But now he knows suicide “can affect anybody. We need to learn as leaders of the Church how to prevent this. We need to learn how to talk about it. We need to understand that mental illness is just like having any other illness.”
The series also includes important comments from Sister Carol F. McConkie, who served in the Church’s Young Women General Presidency until April 2018.
“When anyone says they are contemplating hurting themselves or they’ve had thoughts about a specific plan to take their own life—it’s shocking,” Sister McConkie says. “And in that moment you really don’t know what to say. And yet at that same time you’ve got to pull yourself together and seek the Spirit of the Lord to guide you, to help you feel what He would say, to help you express love for that person and the assurance that you are there for them. … We’re walking this [path] together, and we have a covenant responsibility to look out for one another.”