The Blessings of Eternal Marriage

  By Felly T. Bukasa

  • 28 October 2013

Felly and Anicette Bukasa on their wedding day at the Johannesburg Temple 


"We decided to be sealed for time and all eternity in the temple so that we could live once more with our Heavenly Father eternally."

After God had created all things on the earth, He created Adam to rule and look after all His creations. He created Eve so that Adam could have a “help meet” and be complete. The word marriage got its first meaning in the Garden of Eden. Later it was defined as the union of two people of opposite sex who are lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

God desired that Adam and Eve’s union should continue even after their mortal life, so He instituted eternal marriage. Since the Garden of Eden was sacred, that ordinance was performed there by God Himself. God commanded Adam to “cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). He also commanded them to “be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth….” (Genesis 1:28).

With this understanding in my mind, I decided to do as Adam had done. He did not go far to look for his partner; he just looked around the Garden of Eden and God presented to him his partner. He did not doubt as the joy surrounded him, and he said: “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man” (Genesis 2:23). Like Adam, I did not go far looking for my eternal partner. I had made all the church buildings and activities my “Garden of Eden” because I knew that here was where my Heavenly Father would place a wonderful woman, with all the qualities that Adam had seen in Eve.

Fortunately I found my wife, Anicette Mayamba Kakweni, in my ward. I was a Sunday School teacher after my mission, and while teaching the class I was enlightened to see clearly my eternal partner. That was a wonderful blessing which I received as part of my calling.

In The Family: A Proclamation to the World, the First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles proclaim “that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator's plan for the eternal destiny of His children.” When a man and woman are married in the temple, their family can be together forever. This is a common goal of Latter-day Saints.

                          Sons newly born Alexis Masanka and 3-year-old Den Banjana Bukasa

As Latter-day Saints, my wife and I said to each other that death would never destroy our union. We decided to be sealed for time and all eternity in the temple so that we could live once more with our Heavenly Father eternally.

I was once approached by a non-member friend who was thinking of divorcing his wife, due to minor problems in their marriage relationship. I read to him a quote by President Thomas S. Monson: “Choose your love; Love your choice.” I added that, as Latter-day Saints, we don’t believe in divorce. I told him how good his wife was and how people appreciated her. He asked me, “Really?” I replied, “Yes.” He was totally confused and asked if people would say that he was the one who was wrong after the divorce. He then stated, “I’d better do something good now.” I took this opportunity to present the gospel to him and his family, which they accepted. After joining the Church, they became very happy together because of the gospel.

I testify that we have the true gospel of Jesus Christ here on earth. If we study and ponder it, the Lord will be on our side, and our family will be strong enough to overcome any kind of temptation. I really thank our Heavenly Father for revealing all of this to the Prophet Joseph Smith for our benefit. I know that He loves us and waits to see us standing in His presence as a family.