Blessing Our Children by Improving Our Marriages

Highlights from an article by Lori Cluff Schade. Read the full article.


The Potential of Marriage

“Marriage brings greater possibilities for happiness than does any other human relationship. Yet some couples fall short of their full potential. They let their romance become rusty, take each other for granted, allow other interests or clouds of neglect to obscure the vision of what their marriage really could be. Marriages would be happier if nurtured more carefully.”

President Russell M. Nelson, President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, “Nurturing Marriage,Ensign, May 2006, 36.

Now, are we aware of the powerful influence our marriages have on our children?

President Spencer W. Kimball (1895−1985), said: “Marriage … has to do not only with immediate happiness, but also with eternal joys. It affects not only the two people involved, but also their families and particularly their children … down through the many generations.”

  • A high-quality marriage promotes a sense of emotional security for children, which enhances their well-being and gives them confidence in marriage.
  • High-quality marriages are a valuable resource in preparing youth for eternal purposes.

So, how can we improve our marriages?


  • Talk with your spouse about what kind of marriage you want to have.
  • Think about and share positive memories, making space for hope.
  • Share memories of when you overcame challenges together.
  • Create small, meaningful rituals for when you part and come back together.
  • Put creativity and effort into your dating.
  • Tell your children regularly what you admire about your spouse.
  • Seek uplifting marital improvement resources.
  • Ask each other regularly if you are more or less connected as a couple than previously, and talk about what you can do to bridge the gap.
  • Counsel with your bishop about professional resources if necessary.
  • Pray.
  • President Henry B. Eyring, First Counselor in the First Presidency, counseled: “Pray for the love which allows you to see the good in your companion. Pray for the love that makes weaknesses and mistakes seem small. Pray for the love to make our companion’s joy your own. Pray for the love to want to lessen the load and soften the sorrows of your companion.”
  • If this seems too difficult, pray to want to desire those things.