My sister-in-law was not married and expecting a baby. I worried about how my children would interpret this announcement. Heavenly Father certainly did not design His plan this way. Frustration and resentfulness consumed me as I agonized for weeks how to break the news to my children. And then it hit me; I was not to judge but give them my love without condoning their sin.
By condemning others in our hearts, we forget that the consequences of their decisions can be made right through the Atonement of Christ. In fact, we are told in Matthew 7:1 to “judge not, that ye be not judged.”
Here are five tips to remember when we struggle to love others with different values:
- Don't condone, but don't condemn. True friends don’t enable others; true friends empower their loved ones with Christ’s love.
- Remember, we have not been called to judge others.
- Don't take things personally. Sometimes we can be the source of another person's adverse reactions, but it shouldn't be our default assumption.
- Remember that the Atonement of Jesus Christ can make things right again for anyone.
- Shift your focus from anger to empathy, feel their pain, and think of the Savior when you think of others with differing viewpoints.
I remembered that [the Savior] always sought out the sinners, teaching them through His words and example, and loving them. It was this love that softened hearts and changed people.