Memories of Yesterday, Counsel for Today

Thomas S. Monson

Second Counselor in the First Presidency


How our beloved prophet and President, Ezra Taft Benson, would enjoy standing at this pulpit to open a glorious conference of the Church. President Benson, we love you; we pray for you; we are anxious to follow your inspired direction.

This morning I pray for heavenly help as I respond to President Benson’s assignment to speak in his behalf. I shall attempt to express his thoughts and counsel, largely in his own words.

This year we commemorate the 150th anniversary of the founding of the Relief Society. Women of the Church rejoice as they reflect on past achievements of their organization and, with foresight coupled with faith, meet today’s challenges and plan for future accomplishments.

President Benson has singled out two members of the Relief Society for his personal tribute. He said: “I pay grateful tribute to two elect women who have influenced my life—my mother, and my own sweetheart and eternal companion. I thank God that they have used their womanly attributes of compassion and charity to bless my life and the lives of their posterity.” 1

Reminiscing of boyhood days, President Benson recalls:

“Mother was Relief Society president in the ward—a small but solid country ward. I remember how important Father considered her work in that assignment.

“Father gave to me, as the oldest child, the responsibility of harnessing the horse and getting the buggy ready for Mother’s weekly Relief Society meetings. …

“At first I was not tall enough to buckle the collar or put the bridle on the horse without getting on the fence or [standing on] a box.

“In addition, I was to take a half-bushel of wheat from our granary and put it in the back of the buggy. In those days the Relief Society sisters were building up a storage of wheat against a time of need. …

“When Mother was called to visit the sick in the ward or to help mothers with new babies, she always went by horse and buggy. [And] as the buggy rolled down the dirt road, the circling wheels left a track that stayed even after the buggy had disappeared. Mother’s influence has also stayed in my life and in the countless lives she blessed through compassionate service and example.” 2

I find it interesting that Ezra Benson, the boy who assisted his mother and the Relief Society gather and store wheat for a future day of hunger, was Ezra Benson the Apostle, who years later directed a massive distribution of wheat and other essentials to the famished of Europe following World War II.

Of his companion, Flora, President Benson has said: “I honor and acknowledge my precious wife. … Her loving devotion, inspiration, faith and loyal support have contributed to whatever success may be ours.” 3

Thinking of the example of his own mother and that of his beloved and faithful wife, Flora, President Benson has offered ten specific suggestions for mothers as they guide their precious children:

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    Take time to always be at the crossroads in the lives of your children, whether they be six or sixteen.

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    Take time to be a real friend to your children.

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    Take time to read to your children. Remember what the poet wrote:

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    Take time to pray with your children.

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    Take time to have a meaningful weekly home evening. Make this one of your great family traditions.

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    Take time to be together at mealtimes as often as possible.

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    Take time daily to read the scriptures together as a family.

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    Take time to do things together as a family.

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    Take time to teach your children.

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    Take time to truly love your children. A mother’s unqualified love approaches Christlike love. 4

Though President Benson has addressed these suggestions primarily to mothers, I am confident he would expect those of us who are men and fathers bearing the holy priesthood to do our part, along with each son and daughter, to implement them and bring to fruition their divine objectives.

President Benson leaves us this counsel:

Brothers and sisters, “make it a family objective to all be together in the celestial kingdom. Strive to make your home a little bit of heaven on earth so that after this life is over, you may be able to say:

We are all here,
Father, mother, sister, brother,
All who hold each other dear.
Each chair is filled—
We’re all at home …
We’re all—all here. 5

God bless you, President Benson, in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

Show References

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    1. Ezra Taft Benson, address at the Nauvoo Monument dedicatory services, “To the Elect Women of the Kingdom of God,” 20 June 1978.

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    2. Ibid.

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    3. Ibid.

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    4. Ezra Taft Benson, To the Mothers in Zion, pamphlet, 1987, pp. 8–12; see also Ezra Taft Benson, Come, Listen to a Prophet’s Voice, Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1990, pp. 32–36.

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    5.  Ensign, Nov. 1981, p. 107.