Kyo Shaadi, Kyo Parivaar

England, London ki Purabineta Abbey ka mahaan Bada Purabi Darwaaze ke upar, 20th sadi ke 10 Maseeh dharam maanne waale shaheedon ke putle khade hue hain. Unmein Dietrich Bonhoeffer shaamil hai, 1906 mein payeda hua ek mahaan German dharamshaastri.¹ Jews aur dusron ke liye Bonhoeffer Nazi tanashahi aur uske bahas ka alochak baatein karne waale ban gaya tha. Usko zakriye virodhi hone ke liye use jhel hua aur anth mein dhyaan kamp mein maar dala gaya. Bonhoeffer ek prajawaate lekhak tha, aur kuch jaane- maane likhe mein se patra hai jisne dayalu paharedaar ko madad kiya tha use chupa kar jhel se bahar nikalne mein, baad mein Jhel se Patra aur Pannon ko chapa gaya.

Unmein se ek patra uski bhaanji ke paas tha uske shaadi se pahale. Usmein yah mahaan parikshan shaamil tha: “Shaadi tum dono ko ek dusre se prem se zyaada hai. … Tumhare prem mein tum duniya mein sirf do aatma ko dekh sakte ho, parantu shaadi mein tum aur tumhare pati ko pichle peediyon ke liye abhi ke peediyon ki sewa karne se saath judh saktein hain, jo Parmeshwar uske mahima mein aane ke liye karta hai aur jaane ke liye, aur apne yojna mein niyukti deta hai. Tum apne prem mein sirf apne khudh ke khushiyon ke khushi ki stithi ko dekhta hai, parantu shaadi mein tumhe duniya aur insaan ke liye ek sthar ki zimmedaar milta hai. Tumhare prem tumhare khudh ka adhikaar hai, parantu shaadi vyaktigat cheez se zyaada hai-yah ek sthar, ek daftar hai. Jayese taaj ki tarah, aur niyam ka paalan sirf nahi hota hai, raja jo banata hai, to yah shaadi hai, aur ek dusre se sirf prem nahi, jo Parmeshwar aur insaan ke akhon mein tumhe saath jodta hai. … To prem tumse aata hai, parantu shaadi upar, Parmeshwar se.”²

Kis tarikon mein aadmi aur mahila ki shaadi mein unke prem ek dusre se uncha hota hai aur unke khudh ke khushiyon “duniya aur insaan ke liye ek sthar ki zimmedaar” ban jaata hai.? Kis sthar se wah “upar se, Parmeshwar se” aata hai? Samajhne ke liye, hume shuruaat mein jaana padega.

Bhavishyevaktaoun ne batlaya hai ki pehle hum gyaani the aur yah hume prapt hua tha ya aatma ke sharir, Parmeshwar se, phir Uske aaatma bachchein banne-swarg ke maata-pita ke putra aur putriyon.³ Yaha ek samay aaya is maranshil jeev se purv ke aatmaein jab, Uske ichcha se aage badhe taaki hum “uski tarah aosar ko prapt karein aage badhane mein,”⁴ humare Swarg ke Pita ne adhikaar dene ka yogna banaya. Dharmshaastra mein kai naamon ko diya gaya hai, “mukhti ki yojna,”⁵ ke saath “mahaan khushiyaali ki yojna,”⁶ aur “paap se mukt hone ki yojna.”⁷ Abraham ko in shabdon mein kaarye ke yojna ke do mul ke samjhaya gaya hai:

“Aur waha unke beech ek khada hua tha jo Parmeshwar ki tarah tha, aur usne unse kaha jo unke saath the: Hum niche jayenge, waha par sthaan hai, aur hum in cheezon ko lejayenge, aur hum dharti banayenge jaha weh [aatmaein] rahengi;

“Aur yaha hum unko parkenge, yah dekhne ki kya weh wah sabhi karenge jo unke Prabhu unhein karne ki aagya diya hai;

“Aur jo pehla bhaag ko pura karenge unhe aur prapt hoga; … aur jo dusre bhaag ko pura karenge unke sir par humesha ke liye mahima rahege.”⁸

Humare Swarg ke Pita ke kaaran, hum pehle hi aatma ke jiwan ko prapt kiya hai. Ab Wah hume raasta dikhlata hai pura ya sahi karne ke liye. Sharirik sharir ko prapt karna ke saath ek khaasiyat hai puri tarah se jiwan prapt karne ka aur mahima jo Parmeshwar ke paas Khudh hai. Agar, Parmeshwar ke saath maranshil jeev ke aatma ki duniya mein saath rehne se, hum Uski yojna mein shaamil hone ke liye swikaar kartein hain- ya dusre shabdon mein “[apne] pahale jiwan ko puri tarah se prapt kiya hai”-hume “aur zyaada prapt ho sakta hai” ek aharirik sharir ke saath jo hum is dharti par karne aye hai jiske liye Usne hume banaya hai.

Agar, tab maranshil anubhao ke kaarye mein hum, “sabhi achche cheezon jo [humare] Prabhu Parmeshwar [hume] aagya [dega] karne ke liye ko chuntein hain,” hum apne “dusri jiwan ko pura kartein hain.” Is ka matalb hai ki hum apne chunnao se hum Parmeshwar (aur khudh ko) humare vaadon aur Uske celestial niyan ko pura karne ki chamta ko dikhlaatein hain jab Uske saath nahi hote aur sharirk sharir ke saath sabhi shaktiyon, bhukh, aur pyaar se. Kya hum apne sharirik sharir ko bas mein rakh saktein hain taaki wah aozar bane naaki humare aatma ka swami? Kya hum dono samay aur anant tak parmeshwar ki shakti ke saath vishwaas rakhenge, jiwan ko banane ki shakti ke saath? Kya hum akele hi buraai se jeet sakenge? Jinhone kiya hoga “unke sir par humesha humesha ke liye mahima prapt hui hogi”-us mahima ka bahut hi chota sa mul bhaag ke log ne punaharjiwan, amaranshilta, aur mahaan sharirik sharir ko prapt kiya hai.⁹ Isi kaaran humne “khushi mein chilaya hai” in mahaan chamtaaoun aur vaadon mein.¹⁰

Kam se kam chaar cheezon ki zaroorat hai is diviye yojna ki safalta ke liye:

Pehla tha dharti ka Rachna karna humare rehne ke sthaan ke liye. Chahe kuch bhi rachna ka kaarye raha ho, hum jaantey hai ki yah asahajh nahi tha parantu wah Pita jo Parmeshwar hai ke dwara nirdeshak hua tha aur Ishu Maseeh ke dwara laagu hua—“sab kuch usi ke dwara utpan hua, aur jo kuch utpan hua hai usmein se koi bhi vastu uske bina utpan nahi hui.”¹¹

Maranshilta ke stithi mein dusra. Adam aur Eve ne sabhi ke liye kaarye ko kiya jinhone Pita ke khushiyaali ki mahaan yojna mein bhaag lene ko chunna tha.¹² Humare sharir ko prapt karne ke liye unka patan hona zaroori tha humare rachna ke liye aur maranshil anubhao aur shikshan Parmeshwar ke pass se bahar. Girne ke saath achchaai aur buraai aur Parmeshwar se prapt hue chunne ki shakti ki jaankaari aayi.¹³ Anth mein, Patan ke dwara sharirik mauth aya jo zaroori tha humare samay aur maranshilta ke asthaai ko banane ke liye taaki hum humesha apne paapion ka bhoj nahi uthaye.¹⁴

Teesra hai Grine se mukhti ka. Hum Swarg ke Pita ke yojna mein mauth ke kaarye ko dekhtein hain, parantu wah yojna khaali raha ja sakta tha bina kisi tarike se ant mein maut par vijay prapt karke, dono sharirik aur dhaarmik tar se. Phirbhi, ek Mukhtidata, Parmeshwar ka Ek Lauta Putra, Ishu Maseeh, jhela aur maraAdam aur Eve ke paap ke liye, sabhi ke liye punaharjiwan aur amaranshilta ko de kar. Aur jabki hum mein se koi bhi susamachaar ke niyam ko sahi aur pure tarike se pura nahi kartein hain, Uska Praeshit hume apne paapon se mukhti deta hai agar hum paschaataap kartein hain. Uddhaarkarta ki balidaan ki mahima ke saath paapon ki chama aur aatma ki pavitrikaran hota hai, hum dhaarmik taur se dobara jiwan prapt kar saktein hain aur Parmeshwar ke paas ja saktein hain. Humare dhaarmik maut- humare Parmeshwar se dur karna- khatam hoga.¹⁵

Chautha, aur aakhri, humare sharirik payedaish ki samay aur Parmeshwar ke raajye mein baad mein dhaarmik payedaish hota hai. Uske sabhi kaarye ko aage badhane ke liye “us ke saath [hume mukhti] prapt karna hoga,”¹⁶ Parmeshwar ne aadmi aur mahila ko niyukt kiya shaadi karne aur bachche payeda karne ke liye, yaha banaya, Parmeshwar ke saath sachchedari mein, sharirik sharir maranshilta ke parikshan ki chaabie hai aur Uske saath anant mahima ko zaroori hai. Usne yah bhi niyukt kiya ki maata-pitaaoun ko parivaar banana chahiye aur apne bachchon ko jyoti aur sachchaai mein bada karna chahiye,¹⁷ unko Maseeh ki aasha deni chahiye. Pita hume aagya deta hai:

“In cheezon ko apne bachchon se khushi se batlaao, kehte hue:

“Ki … jabki tum duniya mein paani, aur khoon, aur aatma se payeda hue ho, jo maine banaya hai, aur dhul se ek jiwit aatma bani, tumhe swarg ke raajye mein dobara janam lena hoga, paani se, aur [Pavitra] Aatma, aur khoon se saaf hona hoga, mere Ek Laute ke khoon se; taaki tum sabhi paapon se pavitra ho jaao, aur uske duniya mein anant jiwan ke shabdon par khushi manaao, aur aane waali duniya mein anant jiwan, amaranshilta ki mahima bhi.”¹⁸

Jaante hue ki kyo humne Swarg ke Pita ke raajye ko choda tha aur wapis jaane ke liye kya zaroori hai aur Uske saath mukht prapt karo. Yah bahut saaf hai ki dharti par humare samay ke dauaraan sharirik payedaish aur dhaarmikta ke dobara payedaish se zaroori kuch bhi nahi hai, anant jiwan ke do mul. Yah hai, ki Dietrich Bonhoeffer ke shabdon ka istamaal karein, shaadi ka “daftar,” “insaan … ke karye ki zimmedariyon,” ki yah diviye stithi “upar se, Parmeshwar se” zaroorat hota hai. Yah “peediyon se chali aayi hai” dono yaha aur yaha ke baad bhi—swarg ki sangaton.

Ek parivaar jo aadmi aur aurat ke shaadi se banta hai Parmeshwar ki yojna ko pura karne ke liye sabse achcha hai—bachchon ko payeda karne ke liye, jo Parmeshwar se sudhta aur pavitrata se aatein hain, aur sikhne aur taeyaari ke sthaan ke liye unhe safal maranshil jiwan ki zaroorat hai aur anewaale duniya mein anant jiwan ki. Kam se kam parivaarein us tarah ke shaadi ko nibhaatein hain jo sangatonon ko jeene aur badhane ke liye mul hai. Is liye sangatonon aur deshon ne shaadi aur parivaar ko badhanti diya aur bachahya hai saobhaagye sitithiyon ke liye. Yah kabhi buzurh ke prem aur khushiyon ke bare mein sirf nahi hai.

Samaajik vigyaan ka matlab hai ki shaadi aur parivaaron ko shaadi shuda aadmi aur aurat se hona chahiye.¹⁹ Aur “chetaaoni di jaati hay ki jo vyakti, samaaj, ya desh parivaar ko todenge unpar bahut musibatein ayengi jo prachin aur aaj ke bhavishyevaktaaon dwara batae gaye hain.”²⁰ Parantu shaadi aur parivaar ke kaarye ke liye hum Samaajik vigyaan par nirbhar nahi kar saktein hain parantu us sachchaai par ki wah Parmeshwar dwara racha gaya hai. Aur Usne shuruaat mein Adam aur Eve ko Apne hi swarup ke anusaar utpan kiya tha; nar aur naari karke unko manushyon ki “shirishti” ki aur fulo falo aur prithivi mein bhar jaao.²¹ Har ek vyakti diviye swarup hai, parantu yah ek hone ke liye nar aur naari ke saath shaadi hai jisse hum shaayad Parmeshwar ke swarup ke kiye hona ka pura matlab kahatein hain- nar aur naari. Naaki hum ya koi aur maranshil bhi is diviye shaadi ke niyam ko badal nahi sakta hai. Yah insaan dwara nahi hua hai. Is tarah ka shaadi sahi mein “upar se, Parmeshwar se” banta hai aur jitna hi khushiyon ki yojna ka bhaag hai utna hi Girne aur Praeshchit ka.

Maranshil jeev se purv duniya mein, Lucifer ne Parmeshwar aur Uske yojna ka virodh kiya tha, aur uske virodhi ke paas sirf kuch hi sakti tha. Wah shaadi aur parivaaron ko banane mein fut daalta hai, aur jaha shaadi aur parivaarein banti hai, wah wahi karta hai jisse unmein jhagda ho. Wah us par hamla karta hai jo insaan ke kaam-waasna mein pavitra hota hai, shaadi ki stithi ko balpurwak dur karta hai paapi soch aur kaarye ke tarikon se andekha karke. Wah aadmi aur aurat ko bahalata hai ki shaadi aur parivaar sambhandhi cheezon ko andekha karo ya chodh do, ya kaarye par zyaada mahatav do, dusre safaltaaon, aur atam-purti aur vyaktigat azaadi ko dhoondho. Virodhi khush hota hai jab maata-pitaaein apne bachchon ko Maseeh mein vishwaas sikhlatein hain, aur dhaarmik taur se janam lene ko nahi sikhlaatein aur karatein hai. Bhaaiyon aur bahanon, kai cheezein achchie hai, kai zaroori hai, parantu sirf kuch hi avashyak hai.

Shaadi aur parivaar ke sachche mul ko batlaane mein balidaan aur safalta ko andekha ya unke liye kam nahi kya ja sakta hai jo is sahi stithi se abhi guzare nahi hai. Tum mein se kuch ne shaadi ke ashirwaad ko inkaar kar diya hai, ek laayak sanbhaaona ki kami hai, ek hi ling ki akarshan, sharirik ya dimaagi nuksaan ke kaaran, ya saral tarike se asafalta ki dar, us samay ke liye, vishwaas ko kho diya. Ya tumne shaadi kya hai, parantu shaadi tut gayi, aur tumhe akele sab kuch karna padta hai jo dono saath niyukti mein nahi kar patey. Tum mein se kuch shaadi shuda ho jo bachchon ko jann nahi paatey mahaan ikchaaoun aur sifaarish bhare prarthnaon bavajood.

Bhale hi, sabhi ko uphaar prapt hai; har ek peedi se sabhi diviye yojna ko batlaane mein bhaag le saktein hain. Bahot jo achcha hai, bahot jo khaas hai- kabhi kabhi jo abhi ke liye zaroori hai ko bhi- un sthaaon par bhi prapt ho saktein hain jo uchit nahi hai. Tum mein se kai bahut hi achcha kar rahe ho. Aur jab tum jo sabse bade maranshilta ke musibaton se guzarne waale Parmeshwar ke yojna ko Uske bachchon ki mukti ke liye bachaane mein khade hote ho, hum taeyaar rahatein haintumhari madad ke liye. Atam-nirbharta ke saath main gawahi deta hoon ki Ishu Maseeh ki Preshchit sambhao hui hai aur, ant main, sabhi ki kami aur asafalta ko bhara jayega jo Uske oar mudenge. Kisi ko bhi kam nahi prapt hoga usse jo Pita ne Apne Bachchon ke liye taye kiya hain.

Ek jawaan maa ne mujhe abhi haal hi mein apne sabse zaroori niyukti mein adhura hone ki chinta ke bare mein batlaya. Maine mehsoos kiya ki uski chinta ka karan chota hai aur usko chinta karne ki zaroorat nahi hai; wah achcha kar rahi thi. Parantu mujhe pata tha ki wah sirf Parmeshwar ko khush karna chahati thi aur Uski vishwaas ko pura karna chahati thi. Maine sahare bhare shabdon ko batlaya, aur maine apne hriday mein niwedan kiya ki, uske Swarg ke Pita, Apne prem ke saath use shakti dega aur Uske gawahi ki swikriti jabki wah Uske kaarye ko pura kar rahi thi.

Yah mera prarthna hai aaj hum sab ke liye. Mera aasha hai ki hum sab Uski nyaye mein swikriti ko prapt karein. Mera asha hai ki shaadhi fale-fule aur parivaar badhe, aur chahe humare aanewaali jiwan mein maranshilta ke pure ashirwaadon ko prapt karein ya nahi, Prabhu ki mahima abhi khushiyon ko laaye aur anewaale sachche vaadon mein vishwaas de. Ishu Maseeh ke naam se, amen.