Be a Friend


Did you know that when the Savior spoke about laying down His life for us, He called us His friends? (See John 15:13–14.)

Not all of us can be a sister, a brother, a cousin, or an aunt—but all of us can be a friend. To have a friend, you have to be a friend. So what’s the best way to be a friend? Try some of the ideas below.

  • Be a good listener.

  • Don’t gossip about other people with your friends. That way, they’ll know you won’t gossip about them.

  • Remember your friends on their birthdays.

  • Learn about your friends, such as where they were born, what they like to do, and what they love to eat.

  • Offer to help your friends with household chores, homework, or tending their brothers or sisters. These tasks are always more fun when done with a friend.

  • When your friends are ill, visit or write a get-well note so they know you’re thinking of them.

  • Take the initiative by offering to help plan activities and outings.

  • Remember important events, such as competitions or performances. Plan to be a part of the event, either by attending or by dropping off a note of encouragement.

  • Speak highly of your friends when talking to others.

  • Make sure your conversations aren’t always centered on you.

  • Be sympathetic to your friends’ problems.

  • When they offend you, speak to them about it in a sincere, kind way. They’ll appreciate your honesty.

  • Don’t take offense easily.

  • Have other interests and other friends. There can sometimes be too much of a good thing—and too much of a good friend.

  • Competition is common among friends. And while a little may be healthy, too much can end a friendship. Be careful you don’t get caught up in trying to do everything and anything better than your friends.

  • Love your friends for who they are, not for who they know or what they own.

  • Respect your friends’ privacy and trust. If they confide in you, keep it to yourself.

  • Give genuine compliments freely.

  • Pray that you will be a better friend.

  • Live your life in a way that causes your friends to thank Heavenly Father for a friend like you.

[photo] Photograph by Steve Bunderson