To succeed in our relationships, we should follow the Savior’s example by striving for growth in our physical, mental, social, emotional, and spiritual lives. Elder Ezra Taft Benson, then a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, taught: “It seems to me that the most successful program of complete youth fitness ever known to man was described in fourteen words … : ‘And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and man.’ There is the ideal of any program of youth fitness, to help our youth increase in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and man. It covers everything: physical fitness, mental fitness, social fitness, emotional fitness, spiritual fitness” (… So Shall Ye Reap , 140).
Personal growth is a key to building lasting relationships.
Student Manual Readings
Selected Teachings from “Maturity” (198)
Suggestions for How to Teach
Discussion. Ask students: What do you think it means to be “mature”? Explain that we can look to the Savior as our example of maturity. Read the statement by Elder Ezra Taft Benson in the doctrinal overview above. Invite students to search Luke 2 for the verse Elder Benson mentioned. Write on the board the headings Jesus Increased In and We Need to Grow. Have students list the ways Jesus increased and corresponding ways we need to grow. The completed chart should look similar to the following:
Ask students for examples of the types of maturity listed in the right-hand column. Elder M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles stated, “A periodic review of the covenants we have made with the Lord will help us with our priorities and with balance in our lives.” Invite students to discuss the following recommendations by Elder Ballard:
“Think about your life and set your priorities.”
“Set short-term goals that you can reach.”
“Through wise budgeting, control your real needs and measure them carefully against your many wants in life.”
“Build relationships with your family and friends through open and honest communication.”
“Study the scriptures.”
Schedule “the time for sufficient rest, exercise, and relaxation.”
“Teach one another the gospel.”
“Pray often as individuals and as families.”
(In Conference Report, Apr. 1987, 15–17; or Ensign, May 1987, 14–15.)
Suggestions for How to Teach
Discussion. Ask students whether there is any difference between aging and maturing. Invite a student to read aloud the first three paragraphs of the story by Elder Marvin J. Ashton, who was a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, in the
Write on the board the headings Mature and Immature. Ask the class for examples of what people their age do that is mature and what they do that is immature. List their answers on the board. Discuss how these actions can help or hinder a dating relationship.
Student manual. Write on the board the headings from the following chart. Fill in the left-hand column. Invite students to search the “Maturity” section in the student manual (198–99) for indicators of maturity. Have them identify principles in each statement and suggest which area of growth each principle belongs in. Write their answers on the board in the appropriate column. The completed columns may look similar to the following:
Summarize students’ findings from the chart. Invite students to suggest other indicators of maturity. Ask: In what ways can each of these qualities increase the likelihood of success in marriage?
Reread the fourth paragraph of Elder Marvin J. Ashton’s statement in the