2010
How do I tell a friend her music is inappropriate?
January 2010


“How do I tell a friend her music is inappropriate?” New Era, Jan. 2010, 30

How do I tell a friend her music is inappropriate without losing her friendship? She always tells me that if I’m her friend, then I won’t complain about it. What should I do?

The music and the friends you surround yourself with are strong influences in your life. President Gordon B. Hinckley (1910–2008) said: “Choose your friends carefully. It is they who will lead you in one direction or the other.”1

Discussing the music you and your friend listen to can be a good experience for both of you. Respectfully explain your feelings about the value of good media and the destructive nature of bad media. Share with her how her choice of music prevents you from enjoying your time together more fully.

If she continues to listen to music that offends the Spirit, consider changing friends. Friends are important, but not at the expense of your spiritual well-being.

Note

  1. Gordon B. Hinckley, “A Prophet’s Counsel and Prayer for Youth,” Liahona, Apr. 2001, 36; New Era, Jan. 2001, 4.