The type of social skills that truly improve your life are those that help you get to know other people on a deeper level and help you build real friendships.
Sometimes it’s overwhelming to prepare for the future when you aren’t even sure what’s around the next bend. But don’t stress. There are ways to prepare for whatever lies ahead even when you don’t know what that might be.
Certain life skills—skills you can develop now—will help in almost any situation. They also tend to improve most areas of your life in sometimes obvious, sometimes subtle ways. Bit by bit, you can become more prepared for whatever life throws at you! Check out how you can strengthen social skills.
The social skill set we’re talking about has little to do with popularity. The type of social skills that truly improve your life are those that help you get to know other people on a deeper level and help you build real friendships.
These skills play a big role in school, Church callings, dating, meeting your spouse, career, and pretty much everything else you do in life where you might encounter another living person. The best way to strengthen these skills is with a little practice.
- Play “The Question Game” with your family and close friends. Take turns asking get-to-know-you questions like, “When in your life did you laugh the hardest?” or “What’s the most you’ve ever been surprised by a book or a movie?” Be creative and try to get beyond the favorite-ice-cream-flavor type questions. Really get to know them.
- Practice holding 30-minute conversations with friends and relatives where nobody checks an electronic device the entire time.
- Smile at 25 different people a day for a month (or smile at everybody you meet if you don’t see that many in a given day). Try to include a few strangers in the mix.
- Say something kind, face-to-face, to 10 different people every day for a month.
- One way to show interest is by spending time on what your friends enjoy. For the Strength of Youth says: “To have good friends, be a good friend. Show genuine interest in others” (, 16). Try doing one activity a week with a friend or family member that’s one of their favorite things, even if it’s not something you’d normally be interested in.
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