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How can I learn to be more patient?

Patience is the capacity to endure delay, trouble, opposition, or suffering without being angry, frustrated, or anxious. We can develop patience by seeking to do God’s will and accepting His timing, trusting that He will fulfill all of His promises to us. As we learn to be patient in small things, we prepare ourselves to face larger trials with patience.

Prepare yourself spiritually

Prayerfully study these scriptures and resources. What do you feel inspired to share with the young men?

Job 1; 19:25–26 (The example of Job)

Psalm 37:7–9; Luke 21:19; Hebrews 10:35–36; Mosiah 23:21–22; Alma 26:27; D&C 24:8 (Blessings come to those who are patient)

Romans 5:3; James 1:3 (Tribulations strengthen patience)

Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Continue in Patience,” Ensign or Liahona, May 2010, 56–59; see also the video “Continue in Patience”

Robert C. Oaks, “The Power of Patience,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2006, 15–17

Let the young men lead

A member of the quorum presidency (or an assistant to the bishop in the priests quorum) conducts the quorum meeting. He leads the young men in counseling together about quorum business, teaches them their priesthood duties (from the scriptures and the Duty to God book), encourages them to share their experiences fulfilling their duty to God, and invites an adviser or other quorum member to teach a gospel lesson. He could prepare by filling out a quorum meeting agenda during a presidency meeting.

Begin the learning experience

Choose from these ideas or think of your own to review last week’s lesson and introduce this week’s lesson:

  • Ask each young man to write on the board one sentence that summarizes what he learned in last week’s lesson.
  • Write the title of this lesson on the board, and read the paragraph at the beginning of this outline. Invite the young men to share possible situations in their lives in which they are going to need patience (such as education, marriage, or employment). Show several objects that represent times in your life when you had to demonstrate patience (for example, a college diploma, a wedding ring, or a missionary name tag). Have them guess what the objects have to do with patience, and then share the experiences you had.

Learn together

Each of the activities below will help quorum members understand the importance of patience. Following the inspiration of the Spirit, select one or more that will work best for your quorum:

  • Write on the board the headings “Patience” and “Impatience.” Give each young man one of the scriptures about patience suggested in this outline. Invite the young men to take turns reading their scriptures aloud, discussing what they teach, and writing on the board the blessings of patience or consequences of impatience. What additional blessings and consequences can they add to their lists? Invite each young man to write on a piece of paper a situation that would require patience (encourage them to include not only major traumas but also day-to-day irritations or inconveniences). Have them exchange papers with another young man, write a response that would show patience, and then share with the quorum what they have written.
  • Share the story of a father’s patience from Elder Robert C. Oaks’s talk “The Power of Patience,” and invite the young men to share any stories they have about patience. Give each young man a small section of this talk that you think might be helpful. Invite him to read and summarize it to the quorum. What do they learn from this talk that inspires them to trust the Lord and His timing? What are some reasons we are impatient? How can we overcome this tendency?
  • Show the young men several Mormonad posters from recent issues of the New Era or Liahona. Divide the quorum into small groups, and invite them to create their own Mormonad on the topic of patience. They could start by finding a scripture on patience (such as those listed in this outline) and think of a creative way to present it on a poster. Ask them to share their posters with the quorum and explain what patience means to them. (As part of this discussion, you may want to share with the quorum the definition of patience found at the beginning of this outline.)
  • Show the video “Continue in Patience,” and invite the young men to discuss what they learn from the marshmallow experiment. What are some situations in which the young men become impatient? Invite each young man to read one section from President Dieter F. Uchtdorf’s talk “Continue in Patience,” and ask him to summarize for the rest of the quorum what he learned from the section he read. How can President Uchtdorf’s counsel help the young men become more patient?
  • Invite a quorum member to retell the story of Job (see Job 1). Why do the young men think Job was able to face his trials so patiently? How did his faith in the Savior help him (see Job 19:25–26)? Invite the quorum to suggest specific things they can do to overcome feelings of impatience—both during major adversities, such as those Job faced, and in smaller, daily trials.
  • As a quorum, read paragraphs 9 through 17 of Elder Robert D. Hales’s talk “Waiting upon the Lord: Thy Will Be Done,” looking for answers to the question “What does it mean to wait upon the Lord?” For additional insights, invite the young men to look up the scriptures that Elder Hales quotes and share anything else these scriptures teach them about patience. How could the young men use Elder Hales’s words or these scriptures to help someone who may be losing hope?

Ask the young men to share what they learned today. Do they understand the importance of patience? What feelings or impressions do they have? Do they have any additional questions? Would it be worthwhile to spend more time on this doctrine?

Invite to act

The young man who is conducting concludes the meeting. He could:

  • Share his feelings about patience and invite quorum members to show more patience with their families in the coming week.
  • Invite other quorum members to display a scripture or statement about patience (or the Mormonad they created) in a place where it will remind them to be patient.