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How can I prepare now to become a righteous husband and father?

“By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families” (“The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2010, 129). We can prepare for these responsibilities by faithfully fulfilling our priesthood duties, learning how to receive personal revelation, loving and serving our families now, gaining an education, and learning how to work.

Prepare yourself spiritually

Prayerfully study these scriptures and resources. What do you feel will be relevant to the young men you teach?

Abraham 1:1–4, 18–19 (Abraham sees the blessings that he and his posterity can obtain by having the priesthood in his life)

1 Nephi 2:1–3 (Lehi receives revelation from the Lord for the safety of his family)

1 Nephi 16:14–32 (Nephi helps and shows respect for his family when they are starving in the wilderness)

D&C 42:22 (A husband should be faithful to his wife)

D&C 58:26–28; 107:99–100 (Scriptures describing the importance of work)

L. Whitney Clayton, “Marriage: Watch and Learn,Ensign or Liahona, May 2013

Robert D. Hales, “Becoming Provident Providers Temporally and Spiritually,” Ensign or Liahona, May 2009, 7–10

D. Todd Christofferson, “Brethren, We Have Work to Do,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2012, 47–50

The Family: A Proclamation to the World,Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2010, 129

Video: “A Work in Progress”; “Fathers Can Use the Priesthood to Bless Their Families”; Earthly Father, Heavenly Father

Let the young men lead

A member of the quorum presidency (or an assistant to the bishop in the priests quorum) conducts the quorum meeting. He leads the young men in counseling together about quorum business, teaches them their priesthood duties (from the scriptures and the Duty to God book), encourages them to share their experiences fulfilling their duty to God, and invites an adviser or other quorum member to teach a gospel lesson. He could prepare by filling out a quorum meeting agenda during a presidency meeting.

Begin the learning experience

Choose from these ideas or think of your own to review last week’s lesson and introduce this week’s lesson:

  • Ask the quorum members to share in pairs something they remember from last week’s lesson.
  • Invite quorum members to read Abraham 1:1–2 or watch the video “Earthly Father, Heavenly Father.” Ask them to write down a description of the kind of husbands and fathers they want to be. Invite them to share what they wrote if they would like to. Encourage them to add to their descriptions throughout the lesson.

Learn together

Each of the activities below can help the quorum members understand how to become righteous husbands and fathers. Following the guidance of the Spirit, select one or more that will work best for your quorum:

  • Invite the young men to read the seventh paragraph of “The Family: A Proclamation to the World” (or watch the video “Fathers Can Use the Priesthood to Bless Their Families”) and look for what their responsibilities will be when they become husbands and fathers. Divide the quorum into small groups, and ask each group to think of ways they can prepare now for one of these responsibilities. Ask one member of each group to share with the quorum what his group discussed.
  • As a quorum, read 1 Nephi 2:1–3, in which Lehi receives a revelation to flee the wickedness in Jerusalem. What do the young men learn from Lehi’s example about being a righteous father? What can they do now to develop the qualities Lehi had? Ask the young men to read 1 Nephi 16:14–32 and look for how Nephi treated his family. How could this have helped prepare Nephi for his roles as a husband and father? Ask the young men what they are doing in their families now to prepare to be husbands and fathers.
  • Invite the young men to read the first eight paragraphs of Elder D. Todd Christofferson’s talk “Brethren, We Have Work to Do.” What examples do the young men see of the world’s changing views of men? How does fulfilling our Aaronic Priesthood duties help us resist these influences? What can we do to become the kinds of men our future families can trust?
  • Assign each young man to read a paragraph from “Work and Self-Reliance” or “Education” in For the Strength of Youth, or show the video “A Work in Progress.” What do the young men learn from these resources that can help them become successful husbands and fathers?
  • Assign each quorum member to read one of the five principles of strong marriages that Elder L. Whitney Clayton describes in his talk “Marriage: Watch and Learn.” What examples of these principles have the young men seen? What else have they observed in strong couples that they would like to emulate? What do the young men feel they can do to live these principles now?

Ask the young men to share what they learned today. Do they understand how to prepare for their future roles as husbands and fathers? What feelings or impressions do they have? Do they have any additional questions? Would it be worthwhile to spend more time on this doctrine?

Invite to act

The young man who is conducting concludes the meeting. He could:

  • Invite the quorum members to do something to strengthen their families.
  • Share the goals he has set to prepare to be a righteous husband and father.