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Duty to God

How can I strengthen my family?

“Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful … families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities” (“The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2010, 129). As we assist our parents in accomplishing these goals, we can help our families attain the happiness Heavenly Father wants for us.

Prepare yourself spiritually

Prayerfully study these scriptures and resources. What do you feel will help the young men strengthen their families?

1 Nephi 8:12 (Lehi wanted his family to partake of the fruit of the tree of life)

1 Nephi 16:14–32 (Nephi strengthens his family)

2 Nephi 25:26 (We teach our children about Christ)

Fulfilling My Duty to God (2010), 27, 51, 75, 82

The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2010, 129

Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “In Praise of Those Who Save,” Ensign or Liahona, May 2016, 77–80

Bonnie L. Oscarson, “Defenders of the Family Proclamation,” Ensign or Liahona, May 2015, 14–17

M. Russell Ballard, “Fathers and Sons: A Remarkable Relationship,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2009, 47–50; see also the video “Fathers and Sons”

Videos: “Two Brothers Apart,” “Through Small Things,” “More Diligent and Concerned at Home”

Let the young men lead

A member of the quorum presidency (or an assistant to the bishop in the priests quorum) conducts the quorum meeting. He leads the young men in counseling together about quorum business, teaches them their priesthood duties (from the scriptures and the Duty to God book), encourages them to share their experiences fulfilling their duty to God, and invites an adviser or other quorum member to teach a gospel lesson. He could prepare by filling out a quorum meeting agenda during a presidency meeting.

Begin the learning experience

Choose from these ideas or think of your own to review last week’s lesson and introduce this week’s lesson:

  • Before class, invite a member of the quorum presidency to select a hymn that relates to last week’s lesson. Have him read verses from the hymn and share with quorum members how this hymn relates to last week’s lesson.
  • Ask a quorum member to show a picture of a family from the scriptures and share how the actions of various family members brought happiness or misery to the family (families to discuss could include those of Lehi, Jacob, Adam, or others). 

Learn together

The purpose of this lesson is to encourage each young man to fulfill his priesthood duty to strengthen his family. As part of this lesson, quorum members should make plans in their Duty to God books to serve family members or begin working on their “Family and Friends” project. Before quorum meeting, invite the young men to bring their Duty to God books with them to church. In future quorum meetings, invite them to share experiences they are having as they fulfill their plans.

  • In his talk “In Praise of Those Who Save,” President Dieter F. Uchtdorf taught of families: “We may share the same gene pool, but we are not the same. We have unique spirits. … We can choose to celebrate these differences.” What unique traits or strengths does each young man have? How can each young man use his unique strengths to bless his family? Quorum members could also search portions of the talk in small groups, looking for and sharing things that stand out to them. You could also invite quorum members to watch one of the videos in this outline and look for what the family members did to improve their relationships. How can the young men celebrate the differences in their families? What ideas can they share about how they can strengthen their family relationships?
  • In the talk “Defenders of the Family Proclamation,” Bonnie L. Oscarson taught that “all of us—women, men, youth, and children, single or married—can work at being homemakers. We should ‘make our homes’ places of order, refuge, holiness, and safety” (Ensign or Liahona, May 2015, 17). How else does Sister Oscarson suggest that Church members can defend and strengthen their families? What can the young men do now to help make their homes orderly, holy, and safe?
  • Consider inviting several quorum members to teach part of this lesson. For example, they could share what their family does to bring happiness, or they could use one of the activities below. Some priests may have completed the “Family” activity in Duty to God (pages 80–82) and could share their experiences.
  • Invite the young men to write down obstacles that prevent some families from being happier. Provide each young man with a copy of “The Family: A Proclamation to the World” (see Duty to God, 107). Give quorum members a few minutes to read paragraph seven and underline principles that lead to happiness in family life. Ask each young man to read 1 Nephi 16:14–32 and share ways Lehi’s family applied these principles. Ask them to share experiences they have had that have taught them the importance of these principles in family life.
  • Invite the young men to read “Family” in For the Strength of Youth and identify and share what they can do to strengthen their families. Invite each young man to open his Duty to God book to the “serve others” section (deacon, 27; teacher, 51; priest, 75) and write what he could do to strengthen his family through serving them (see “My personal plan to give service”). Ask a few young men to share their plans with the quorum.

Ask the young men to share what they learned today. Do they understand how they, as priesthood holders, can strengthen their families? What feelings or impressions do they have? Do they have any additional questions? Would it be worthwhile to spend more time on this topic?

Invite to act

The young man who is conducting concludes the meeting. He could:

  • Invite the young men to write in their Duty to God books what they could do to strengthen their relationships with members of their family (if they have not already done so; see page 82).
  • Invite quorum members to share how they have helped their families be happier.
  • Bear his testimony about the important responsibility that each young man has to help his family be happier.