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How can I prepare now to become a righteous wife and mother?

To prepare to be a righteous wife and mother, young women should focus on the Savior and on developing Christlike attributes. The family proclamation says that “successful marriage and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. … Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children” (“The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2010, 129). 

Prepare yourself spiritually

Prayerfully study these scriptures and resources. What do you feel will help the young women prepare to become a wife and mother?

Proverbs 31:10–31; Alma 56:47–48; Moroni 7:45–46; D&C 88:123–25 (Characteristics of righteous women)

D&C 88:78–80, 118; 90:15 (Seek learning)

Joy D. Jones, “A Sin-Resistant Generation,” Ensign or Liahona, May 2017, 87–90

K. Brett Nattress, “No Greater Joy Than to Know That They Know,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2016, 119–21 

Jeffrey R. Holland, “Behold Thy Mother,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2015, 47–50

Education,” For the Strength of Youth (2011), 9–10

Videos: “Motherhood: An Eternal Partnership with God,” “Loving God’s Children,” “A Mother’s Hope,” “Mother in Israel”

Share experiences

At the beginning of each class, invite the young women to share, teach, and testify about the experiences they have had applying what they learned in the previous week’s lesson. This will encourage personal conversion, help the young women see the relevance of the gospel in their daily lives, and help them prepare to learn more.

Introduce the doctrine

Choose from these ideas or think of your own to introduce this week’s lesson:

  • Show one of the videos suggested in this outline. Ask the young women, “What are you doing to prepare to become a righteous wife and mother?”
  • Repeat the Young Women theme together. Encourage a few young women to share what the phrase “strengthen home and family” means to them. 

Learn together

Each of the activities below can help the young women prepare to be righteous wives and mothers. Following the guidance of the Holy Ghost, select one or more that will work best for your class:

  • Can you think of an object lesson that would help the young women understand what it means to be sin-resistant? For example, you could bring an umbrella and a sponge to class and show how one object resists water and the other absorbs it. How does this comparison relate to resisting sin? Invite the young women to search Sister Joy D. Jones’s talk “A Sin-Resistant Generation” and make a list of things that they could do when they are mothers to raise sin-resistant children. How can doing the things on their lists now prepare them to be righteous wives and mothers?
  • Invite the young women to read about Elder K. Brett Nattress’s mother in his talk “No Greater Joy Than to Know That They Know.” What attributes did Sister Nattress have that the young women would like to emulate as they prepare for motherhood? What did she do to raise a righteous family? They could also watch one or more of the videos suggested in this outline and discuss similar questions. What examples of righteous parents have the young women seen? What do the young women feel they can do to follow these examples now?
  • Assign each young woman a few verses to read from some of the scriptures suggested in this outline. Invite each young woman to draw a picture or symbol or write a brief sentence representing the characteristics of a righteous wife and mother found in her assigned verses. Share the pictures or sentences with the class, and discuss together how a young woman can acquire these characteristics. Ask the young women to share examples of mothers like those described in Proverbs. How are the families of these mothers blessed? Why is a “virtuous woman” so valuable to the Lord (see Proverbs 31:10)?
  • Ask the young women to write on the board a list of righteous women in the scriptures (for example, Ruth, Esther, Eve, Hannah, Emma Smith, and so on). Invite them to choose one woman from the list and read about her in the scriptures (using the Topical Guide or Bible Dictionary). Encourage the young women to share what virtuous traits they recognize and admire in these women and how these traits could help them prepare to be a righteous wife and mother.
  • Review together the stories about exemplary mothers in Elder Jeffrey R. Holland’s talk “Behold Thy Mother.” Ask the young women to write their thoughts about things they admire about their mothers or qualities their mothers have that they would like to emulate as they prepare to become mothers themselves. Invite a few of them to share what they wrote. If possible, invite the mothers of the young women to participate in this discussion.

Ask the young women to share what they learned today. Do they understand how to prepare for their future roles as wives and mothers? What feelings or impressions do they have? Do they have any additional questions? Would it be helpful to spend more time on this doctrine?

Live what we are learning

Invite the young women to consider how they will live by what they have learned today. For example, they could:

  • Complete any of the following from Personal Progress: Divine Nature value project, Individual Worth value experience 4, Choice and Accountability value experience 7, Good Works value experience 2.
  • Interview a woman about the responsibilities, challenges, and blessings of being a wife or mother. Ask what skills and attributes she finds most essential. Record any thoughts or feelings in a journal.

You might want to plan with the young women a Mutual activity that reinforces what they learned in class. For example, they could learn and practice homemaking skills.