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Why do the choices I make matter?

Heavenly Father has given us moral agency, the ability to choose and act for ourselves. While we are free to make our own choices, we cannot choose the consequences of those choices. Good choices lead to lasting happiness and eternal life. If we ask Him, Heavenly Father will help us make wise choices.

Prepare yourself spiritually

Study the scriptures below, and complete one of the Choice and Accountability value experiences in Personal Progress. As you do, make note of things you learn about agency that you could share with the young women.

Joshua 24:15 (We can choose to serve the Lord)

John 14:15 (Our good choices show our love for Heavenly Father and our desire to do His will)

2 Nephi 2:16, 27; Helaman 14:30–31 (We are free to choose and act for ourselves)

Moroni 7:14–15 (It is given to us to judge between good and evil)

Thomas S. Monson, “The Three Rs of Choice,Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2010, 67–70

Russell M. Nelson, “Decisions for Eternity,Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2013, 106–9

Randall L. Ridd, “The Choice Generation,” Ensign or Liahona, May 2014

Elaine S. Dalton, “Guardians of Virtue,Ensign or Liahona, May 2011, 121–24

Choice and Accountability,Personal Progress, 46–49

Agency,True to the Faith (2004), 12–13

Agency and Accountability,For the Strength of Youth (2011), 2–3

Video: “No Regrets”

Share experiences

At the beginning of each class, invite the young women to share, teach, and testify about the experiences they have had applying what they learned in the previous week’s lesson. This will encourage personal conversion and help the young women see the relevance of the gospel in their daily lives.

Introduce the doctrine

Choose from these ideas or think of your own to introduce this week’s lesson:

  • Invite the young women to think of some things they might do when others challenge their standards. How does Satan try to confuse us about the consequences of our choices? Encourage them to look for truths during this lesson that help them combat Satan’s lies.
  • Ask the young women to list some choices they have made recently. How have their choices affected them? How have their choices affected others?

Learn together

Each of the activities below will help the young women understand the doctrine of agency. Following the inspiration of the Spirit, select one or more that will work best for your class:

  • Invite the young women to do one of the Choice and Accountability value experiences in the Personal Progress book (individually or in groups). Before class is over, invite each young woman to share something she learned from her study about agency. Invite a young woman to share with the rest of the class what she has done on her own to complete one of the Choice and Accountability value experiences.
  • Invite each young woman to silently read “Agency and Accountability” in For the Strength of Youth and share what impresses her. Class members could then choose another standard in the book and share some choices they’ve made in relation to that standard and the blessings that came from their choices. For example, you might discuss as a class the blessings they’ve received for following the counsel to avoid addictions (see page 27).
  • Give each young woman portions of President Thomas S. Monson’s talk “The Three Rs of Choice” or Brother Randall L. Ridd’s talk “The Choice Generation” to read on her own. Then invite the young women to share things that impressed them. They could do this in small groups or with the entire class. Invite them to discuss how the counsel they studied could help them make better choices.
  • Use tape or string to create a “V” on the classroom floor. Invite a young woman to start where the tape or string meets and to walk down the “V” keeping one foot on each side. Eventually she will need to choose to walk on one side of the tape. Invite the young women to explain what they learn about choices from this experience. Invite the young women to read the first paragraph of Elder Russell M. Nelson’s talk “Decisions for Eternity” and identify phrases they would like to remember. Invite the young women to share how they have seen “decisions determine destiny” or the results of other phrases from Elder Nelson’s talk.
  • Ask the young women to search the talk “Guardians of Virtue,” looking for things Elaine S. Dalton did as a young woman to ensure that she made good choices. In what ways can the young women follow her example? With permission from the bishop, invite some of the exemplary sisters in the ward to participate in a discussion about how their choices as daughters of God have blessed their lives. Consider including single sisters as well as married sisters.
  • Invite each young woman to find an example of someone making a choice in the scriptures (for example, contrast the choices of Mary and Martha in Luke 10:38–42). What were the consequences of these choices? How did the choices affect others?
  • Show the video “No Regrets” in class. Invite the young women to look for the results of the choices the young man in the video made. Ask them to share what they find. Invite them to share experiences in which they made a choice that had far-reaching consequences. Invite each young woman to read one of the scriptures in this outline and share how it can help her make the right choices in the future.

Ask the young women to share what they learned today. Do they understand the doctrine of agency better? What feelings or impressions do they have? Do they have any additional questions? Would it be worthwhile to spend more time on this doctrine?

Live what we are learning

Invite the young women to consider how they will live what they have learned today. For example, they could:

  • Make lists similar to those Sister Dalton describes in her talk “Guardians of Virtue,” describing things they will always do and things they will never do.
  • Continue to work on the Choice and Accountability value experiences in Personal Progress.