Prabhu ke saath Saajhedaaree mein

Hamari shaadi ke pehle kuch mahinon ke bhitar, meri pyaari patni ne sangeet ka adhyayan karne ki ichcha vyakt ki. Use khush karne ke iraade se, mainne apni priye ke liye ek bada, haardik aashcharye karne ka phaisala kiya. Main ek sangeet vaadyayantr ki dukaan par gaya aur use uphaar ke roop mein ek piyaano kharida. Mainne utsaah se kharid rasid ko ek sundar dhanush ke saath ek boks mein rakha aur use de diya, uske behad pyaar karne waale aur chaukas pati ke liye krtagyata ki ek prabhaavashaali pratikriya ki ummeed karte hue.

Jab usne us chote se bakse ko khola aur usmen rakhi saamagree ko dekha, to usne pyaar se meri or dekha aur kaha, “Oh, mere priye, tum adbhut ho! Lekin main aapse ek prashn puchta hoon: Kya yah taufe hai ya karj?” Saprais ke baare mein ek saath kaunsaling ke baad, hamne kharidaaree ko radd karne ka nirnay liya. Ham ek student bajat par jee rahe the, jaisa ki kai jawaan navavivaahiton ke saath hota hai. Is anubhav ne mujhe vaivaahik sambandhon mein purn saajhedaaree ke siddhaant ke mahatv ko pehchanne mein madad ki aur kaise iska upyog meri patni aur mujhe ek dil aur ek dimaag ka hone mein madad kar sakta hai.¹

Ishu Masih ka punarsthaapit susmaachaar stree aur purush ke beech, maransheel jiwan aur anant kaal donon mein purn saajhedaaree ke siddhaant ki ghoshna karta hai. Yadyapi pratyek ke paas vishisht gun aur divye rup se niyukt zimmedaariyaan hain, phir bhi stree aur purush apne bachchon ke liye Parmeshwar ki khushi ki yojna mein samaan rup se praasangik aur aavashyak bhumikaen nibhaate hain.² Yah shuru se hi spasht tha jab Prabhu ne ghoshna kee “ki yah achcha nahin tha ki manushye akela ho; isliye [Woh] uske liye ek sahaeta bhent karega.”³

Prabhu ki yojna mein, ek “madad milan” ek saathi tha jo puri saajhedaaree mein Adam ke saath kandhe se kandha milaakar chalta tha.⁴ Vaastav mein, Adam ke jiwan mein Eve ek swargiye aashish thee. Apne divye svabhaav aur aadhyaatmik gunon ke maadhyam se, usne aadam ko sabhi maanav jaati ke liye Parmeshwar ki khushi ki yojna ko praapt karne ke liye uske saath saajhedaaree mein kaam karne ke liye prerit kiya.⁵

Aaiye ham do moolabhut siddhaanton par vichaar karen jo purush aur mahila ke beech saajhedaaree ko maaboot karate hain. Pahela siddhaant hai “Ham sab Parmeshwar ke samaan hain.”⁶ Susmaachaar ke siddhaant ke anusaar, stree aur purush ke beech ka antar un shaashvat vaadon ko khatm nahin karta hai jo Parmeshwar ne apne putron aur putriyon ke liye kiye hain. Anant kaal mein dusre ki tulna mein aakaasheey mahima ke liye koi badi sambhaavana nahin hai.⁷ Rakshak Khud ham sabhi ko, Parmeshwar ki santaanon, “ko apne paas bulaata hai aur apni bhalai mein bhaag lene ko kehta hai; aur woh kisi ko bhi apne paas aane se mana nahi karta hai.”⁸ Isliye is sandarbh mein ham sab Unke saamne ek samaan maane jaate hain.

Jab pati-patni is siddhaant ko samajhte hain aur shaamil hote hain, to weh khud ko apne parivaar ke adhyaksh ya upaadhyaksh ke rup mein nahin rakhte hain. Vivaahik sambandhon mein na shreshthata hoti hai aur na hi nocha darja, aur na hi ek dusre se aage chalte hain aur na hi piche. Weh Parmeshwar ki divye santaanon ke baraabar, kandhe se kandha milaakar chalte hain. Weh hamare Swargiye Pita aur Ishu Masih ke saath vichaar,⁹ ichcha aur uddeshye mein ek ho jaate hain, parivaar ikai ka netrtv aur maargadarshan karte hain.

Ek samaan saajhedaaree mein, “pyaar adhikaar nahin, balki bhaageedaaree hai, … us sah-nirmaan ka hissa hai jo hamari maanaveey zimmedaari hai.”¹⁰ Sachchi bhaageedaaree ke saath, pati aur patni ek sanaatan prabhutv ki sahakriyaatmak ekta mein vileen ho jaate hain ki bina anivaary saadhanon ke aadhyaatmik jiwan ke saath unke aur unki bhaavee pidhi ko hamesha aur hamesha ke liye pravaahit hoga.’”¹¹

Dusra praasangik siddhaant Golden Rule hai, jise Rakshak ne Sermon on the Mount mein sikhaya hai: “aur jaisa tum chahate ho ki log tumhare saath karen, waise hi tum bhi unke saath karo.”¹² Yah siddhaant milkar karne, ek duje ke liye karne, ekta aur ek dusre pe nirbhar hone ke drshtikon ka ishaara karta hai aur dusri mahan aagya par aadhaarit hai: “Tuh apne padosi se apne samaan prem rakhna.”¹³ Yah anye Isaai gunon jaise ki dhiraj, namrata, komaltaa aur dayaluta ke saath vileen ho jaata hai

Is siddhaant ke anuprayog ko behtar dhang se samajhne ke liye, ham apne pehle maata-pita, Adam aur Eve ke beech Parmeshwar dwara sthaapit pavitr aur shaashvat bandhan ko dekh sakte hain. Weh ek tan bane,¹⁴ ekta ka ek aisa aayaam banaate hue jisne unhen sammaan, krtagyata aur prem ke saath chalne ki anumati di, apne baare mein bhulakar aur anant kaal i apni yaatra par ek-dusre ki bhalai ki talaash ki.

Aaj ham ek sanyukt vivaah mein unheen visheshataon ke liye prayaas karte hain. Mandir ki seeling ke maadhyam se, ek mahila aur ek purush nai aur anant vaachan mein vivaah ke pavitr kram mein pravesh karte hain. Pristhud ke is aadesh ke maadhyam se, unhen apne paarivaarik maamalon ko nirdeshit karne ke yanant aashirvaad aur divye shakti di jaati hai kyunki weh unke dwara banae gae anubandhon ke anusaar jeete hain. Us samay se,weh anyonyaashrit roop se aur Prabhu ke saath purn bhaageedaaree mein aage badhate hain, vishesh roop se apne parivaar mein paalan-poshan aur adhyakshata karne ki apni pratyek divye rup se niyukt zimmedaariyon ke sambandh mein.¹⁵ Paalan-poshan aur adhyakshata karna paraspar sambandhit aur ativyaapee zimmedaariyaan hain, jiska arth hai ki maata aur pita “samaan bhaageedaar ke roop mein ek dusre ki madad karne ke liye baadhy hain”¹⁶ aur apne ghar me santulit netrtv ko saajha karte hain.

Paalan-poshan karne ka arth hai parivaar ke sadasyon ka poshan, shiksha aur samarthan karna, jo unhen prem ke vaataavaran mein “susmaachaar kee sachchaiyon ko sikhne aur Swargiye Pita aur Ishu Masih mein vishwaas viksit karne” mein madad karane ke dvaara kiya jaata hai Adhyakshata karane ka arth hai “parivaar ke sadasyon ko Parmeshwar ki upasthiti mein rahane ke liye waapas le jaane mein sahaeta karna. Yah namrata, dayaluta aur shuddh prem ke saath sewa karne aur sikhaane ke dwara kiya jaata hai.” Ismen “niyamit prarthna, susmaachaar adhyayan, aur aaraadhana ke anye pahaluon mein parivaar ke pramukh sadasye bhi shaamil hain. Maata-pita ekta mein kaam karte hain,” Ishu Masih ke udaaharan ka anusaran karte hue, “in [do mahaan] zimmedaariyon ko pura karne ke liye.”¹⁷

Yah dekhna mahatvapurn hai ki parivaar mein sarakaar pitrsattaatmak paddhati ka anusaran karti hai, jo kuch maamalon mein Girjaghar mein pristhud netrtv se bhinn hoti hai.¹⁸ Petriakal pettan mein yah shaamil hai ki parivaar mein apni pavitr zimmedaariyon ko pura karne ke liye patniyaan aur pati seedhe Parmeshwar ke prati jawaabdeh hain. Yah ek purn saajhedaaree—dhaarmikta aur jawaabdeh ke har siddhaant ke saath ek ichchhuk anupaalan ki maang karta hai—aur pyaar aur paarasparik sahaayata ke maahaul mein vikaas ke avsar pradaan karta hai.¹⁹ Yeh vishesh zimmedaariyaan padaanukram ka arth nahin karti hain aur kisi bhi prakaar ke durupyog ya adhikaar ke anuchit upyog ko puri tarah se bahar kare.

Garden of Eden ko chodne ke baad Adam aur Eve ka anubhav, apne parivaar ke paalan-poshan aur adhyakshata mein ek maata aur pita ke beech paraspar nirbharata kee avadhaarana ko khubsoorati se darshaata hai. Jaisa ki Moses ki pustak mein sikhaya gaya tha, unhone apne parivaar kee shaaririk bhalai ke liye apne maathe ke paseene se prthvi par ek saath kaam kiya;²⁰ weh bachchon ko duniya mein lae;²¹ unhonne unke naam se pukara Prabhu ne ek saath aur Uskw aavaaj “Garden of Eden ki or se”sunee; ”;²² unhonne un aagyaon ko swikaar kiya jo Prabhu ne unhen dee theen aur unka paalan karne ke liye ek saath prayaas kiya tha.²³ Phir unhonne “[in] baaton ko apne putron aur putriyon ko pragat kiya”²⁴ aur apni aavashyakataon ke anusaar ek saath “Parmeshwar ko pukaarna na choda.²⁵

Mere pyaare bhaaiyon aur bahanon, paalan-poshan aur adhyakshata karna avsar hain, na ki anany seemaen. Kisi cheez ke liye ek vyakti ki zimmedaaree ho sakti hai, lekin aisa karne waala woh akela vyakti nahin ho sakta hai. Jab pyaar karne vaale maata-pita in do pramukh zimmedaariyon ko achchitarah se samajhte hain, to weh apne bachchon ki shaaririk aur bhaavanaatmak bhalai ki raksha aur dekhbhaal karne ke liye milkar prayaas karenge. Weh hamare samay ke aadhyaatmik khataron ka saamana karne mein bhee unki madad karte hain, jaisa ki Unke profat par prakat hue Prabhu ke achche vachan ke saath unka poshan karte hain.

Haalaanki pati aur patni apni ishvaariye roop se niyukt zimmedaariyon mein ek-dusre ka samarthan karte hain, “vikalaangata, mrtyu, ya anye paristhitiyon mein vyaktigat anukulan ki aavashyakata ho sakti hai.”²⁶ Kabhi-kabhi ek jiwansaathi ya dusre par donon bhumikaon mein ek saath abhinay karne ki zimmedaaree hogi, chaahe asthaayee ya sthaayee roup se.

Main haal hi mein ek bahan aur ek bhai se mila, jo is haalat mein rahate hain. Akel maata-pita ke roop mein, unmen se pratyek ne apne paarivaarik kshetr mein aur Prabhu ke saath saajhedaaree mein, apne bachchon kee aadhyaatmik aur laukik dekhbhaal ke liye apna jiwan samarpit karne ka phaisala kiya hai. Unhonne apne talaak ke bauvjood Prabhu ke saath ki gai apni mandir ki vaachanon aur unke shaashvat vaadon ko nahin bhulaya hai. Donon ne sabhee cheezon mein Prabhu kee sahaayata maangee hai kyonki Weh lagaataar apni chunautiyon ka saamana karne aur vaachan ke maarg par chalne ka prayaas karte hain. Unhen bharosa hai ki Prabhu na kewal is jiwan mein balki anant kaal tak unki zarooraton ka khyaal rakhenge. Donon ne jiwan mein kathin paristhitiyon ka saamana karte hue bhi apne bachchon ko namrata, dayaluta, aur shuddh prem se padhaakar unka paalan-poshan kiya hai. Main jo jaanta hoon, usse ye do akel maata-pita apne durbhaagy ke liye Parmeshwar ko dosh nahin dete hain. Iske bajaay, weh aasha aur vishwaas ki ek purn chamak ke saath un aashishon ki prateeksha karte hain jo Prabhu ne unke liye taeyaar ki hain.²⁷

Bhaaiyon aur bahano, Rakshak ne Swarg ke Pita ke saath lakshye aur siddhaant ke ekta aur madhurta ka sahi uddharan diya. Usne Apne chelon ke liye praathna kiya, kehte huwe, “Ki woh sab ek honge; jaise aap, Pita, mujhe me hai, aur mai aap me hoon, ki woh bhi hum me ek ho: … ki woh ek bane, jaise hum ek hai.”²⁸

Main aapko gawahi deta hoon ki jab ham-mahilaen aur purush-ek sachchi aur samaan saajhedaaree mein ek saath kaam karte hain, to ham Rakshak dwara sikhai gai ekta ka aanand lenge kyunki ham apne vivaah sambandhon mein divye zimmedaariyon ko pura karte hain. Main aapse, Masih ke naam par, vaada karta hoon ki dil “ekta mein ek saath bandhe rahenge aur ek dusre se pyaar karenge,”²⁹ ham anant jiwan ki apni yaatra mein aur ek dusre ki sewa karne ki hamari chamta mein aur adhik aanand paenge. dusra mahatvapurn roop se guna karega.³⁰ Main in sachchaaiyon ka gawahi Uddhaarkarta Ishu Masih ke pavitra naam se deta hoon, amen.